Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of his body, the church.
Instruct a wise man and he will be wiser still; teach a righteous man and he will add to his learning.
Whoever gives heed to instruction prospers, and blessed is he who trusts in the Lord.
As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.
The BLAME GAME….we have all been there.
We might have pointed a finger when we were children, possibly blaming our sibling for a broken glass.
We may have blamed another classmate when we got in trouble for laughing or talking.
We could have blamed a co-worker for an incomplete project that a supervisor requested.
You might blame your spouse for a pouty attitude.
We might even blame the car in front of us for causing us to run a red light or causing us to speed on the freeway.
WE MUST TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR OUR OWN ACTIONS!
One time a friend brought to my attention a boundary I had crossed. This person came to me in Christlike love, and her intentions were to balance things and clear the air. I had been totally clueless of the mishap that my action caused which further snowballed into uncomfortable miscommunication. My first instinct was to blame her for what I thought was a careless misinterpretation. But……the Holy Spirit gave me a stillness and self-control as not to reply defensively by placing blame or making excuses.
Typically, we judge others based on their actions, but we tend to judge ourselves based on our best intentions. Oftentimes, we are unaware of our wrongdoing, or we might be oblivious to an offense, because we are in our own little world. It’s important to listen and respond in love when our brothers and sisters in Christ speak the truth in love.
Christ uses others to nudge us in order that we may recognize a sin or realize negligence in a relationship. When we acknowledge sin in our life, we point people to Christ and they receive the cleansing and growth that He so graciously offers. If we don’t acknowledge sin in our lives, we aren’t able to receive the forgiveness from it and grow in grace.
Sometimes God uses a friend or family member to approach us to guide us in seeing a different viewpoint. There are so many perspectives in different situations that take place. Instead of playing the blame game or responding defensively, God asks us to reflect His nature…..a response of humility and love.
God’s desire in bringing others across our paths to speak the truth in love is ALWAYS to reconcile people to Him and others. If we place the full focus on ourselves, we might mistake it as unwarranted criticism, however, when we direct the focus on Christ, He allows us to be grateful for it and learn from it!
Don’t be offended when another Christian approaches you about a matter. Set aside pride and self-centeredness, it’s the Lord’s correction nine times out of ten. Most of the time when you examine that person’s heart, you will find that their motives are pure. It’s called “Iron Sharpens Iron” and it’s a way the Holy Spirit molds us into His likeness. Be thankful that someone loves you enough to help you grow in Him.
Finally, I wanted to leave you with an excerpt from a devotion I read yesterday by Jon Courson. I posted it as my facebook update today……
“God puts us in fixes to fix us, He puts us with people and in situations He knows will shape us most effectively. So if I try to fix the fix God put me in, He will be faithful to put me in another fix to fix the fix He wanted to fix in the first place! I’m going to embrace and accept where You have me, because I know You’re doing a work on me, shaping me for eternity.”
THANK YOU FOR FIXING US JESUS…..
He is the POTTER …we are the clay!